How Your Feelings Are Hindering You

Updated: Jul 19, 2021


The Root of the Feeling of Overwhelm


Something that a lot of mothers struggle with is the feeling deep down that they do not really matter enough. Being a mother can be a thankless task and sometimes the only real fruit you can see of whether you did a good job or not is when your children turn into adults. But that does not help with the day to day living right?


It does not help you feel good when the house is a mess, when you can’t keep on top of the laundry, when school PE kits go missing, when homework hasn't been completed and when you haven't managed to keep up with nutritious meals or the elimination of screen time. All of this can equate to an enormous amount of overwhelm and an energy zapping experience in the life of a mother.


Have you found yourself in this scenario? If so you are not alone even when it feels like you are.


As although these things happen in all children filled house holds it does not take away from the fact at some point some where, there is a mother and it could be you at this very moment feeling like she does not matter enough and all she is, is someone's something. Whether that is a little person’s snack lady, cleaner, cook or wife and the only place she comes in as just herself as an individual in her own right is right at the bottom of the rest of those roles.


Mums You Matter Much More Than You Are Led to Believe on a Daily Basis.


And I really wanted to pop in today and remind you that if you are having one of those days where you can not see the fog from the clouds that You do Matter and you matter so much more than you may be feeling. Never give in to the notion that you are invisible or not noticed. What you hold on to in your mind will affect you negatively or positively depending on what you feed it the most. And whatever is fed will produce the feelings you have which in turn will dictate your behaviour.



You just need the key to combat the inner dialogue running your emotions…


As the truth is you are not going to get anywhere near where you want to or be and be seen as who you want to if you let those feelings run your life instead of you being in control of them. (And mothers can have a lot of emotions and feelings bubbling up.)


I want to ask you to let go of those feelings that do not serve you. This will reduce the overwhelm and the struggle ten fold. Clinging on to feelings that do not serve you will only ever prohibit you.


What You Truly Deserve as a Mother


You deserve to only feed yourself that which will nourish you no matter what. And this is not selfish it is a necessity because without your emotional well being which is important enough on its own, but you can't cultivate anybody else's such as your childrens if you do not.


Not only that, but feelings are really not your loyal best friends, no matter how comforting they may feel in the midst of a pity party, they actually can perpetuate the overwhelm much more than we realise…


Because…


  • Your feelings lie

  • Your feelings will keep you stuck

  • Your feelings will convince you things can't change anytime soon

  • Your feelings will allow you to make poor decisions today and not see the repercussions tomorrow

  • Your feelings often do not have your best interest at heart

  • Your feelings do not consider the bigger picture


And what is the bigger picture?


  • The fact you can change the narrative of your life at any point.

  • The fact it is your God given right to enjoy a peaceful, joyous, prosperous, fulfilled life.

  • The fact you have been blessed with a passionate gift that will allow you to access all of the above.

  • The fact you have do not have to do a thing in this world alone and there is support available.


But there is a caveat, like most things in life except this one is simple…


You will only experience in life what you feel and believe on the inside; If you believe you deserve the bigger picture that is exactly what you will get. Your life is quite simply like a mirror whatever is happening on the outside is a direct reflection of what is going on for you internally.


How Your Work and Career May Be Getting Affected...


Because in the same light whatever is happening in your professional life is a direct reflection of what is going on in your personal life. Whenever I take on a client there is no exponential growth and success without working on this. At the root of any outward circumstance lies an internal situation that has not been resolved.


What Many Mothers Fail to Do Effectively Which Contributes to Overwhelm


So many mothers are not examining their lives deep enough in this way, identifying in their life and internally what exactly is not working and what is. But when you do this it is truly a game changer, because nothing is permanent or fixed, everything can be changed, optimised, or eradicated.


If you haven't been believing in the bigger picture for yourself and your life, start asking yourself why not, what block is holding you back? You are soon going to realise, once you sit in it long enough that there are reasons and stories you have told yourself that are preventing you from actualising in your life that which you truly desire and hold important.


Your Feelings are The Enemy


The truth is none of the never ending to do lists are your biggest enemy, someone much closer to home is and once those feelings are out of the way and no longer running your life you can manifest what would actually make your life the passionate and enjoyable existence you currently dream of as a mere fantasy.


Let’s take a look at what some scientific researchers have to say…


Joe Dispenza is an international lecturer and researcher, whose work I love and has a postgraduate education in neurology, neuroscience, brain function and chemistry, cellular biology, memory formation, and aging and longevity and he says