Is Intentional Energy The Single Most Important Decision You Should Make Daily?
Updated: Nov 12, 2020
Do you suffer with energy lag as a mum?
The one you get when you open your eyes first thing in the morning, drop the kids off to school and you feel like you already completed a whole day's work? Or what about when it's lunch time and you are just about ready for bed. How about at bedtime for the kids where you get to have some personal down time but the exhaustion has you falling asleep with them??
"The average mum loses focus, direction and productivity at a rapid rate all due to a decline in energy stemming from tiredness."
I know if you are still reading you are probably familiar with more than one of the above! But if you feel like that, you are absolutely NOT ALONE. The average mum loses focus, direction and productivity at a rapid rate all due to a decline in energy stemming from tiredness. That means work starts to drain the life out of them, even worse, it starts to take a toll on family life and worst still she starts to become a fraction of who she once was and more often than not she will have to ignore these feelings without being able to consider the long term impact.
Alignment and Boosting Energy
Furthermore as a mum you need to be absolutely certain that your professional, personal, health, spiritual, social and financial elements of your life are as aligned as possible if you want to succeed at beating the energy zapping monster. You may not realise this to be the case but it is the key that doesn’t get taught.
The honest truth is that the odds are against mums, as it can be ridden with energy draining challenges everyday. But it actually doesn't have to be. I know you may find that hard to believe but over the past 1 year, I’ve maintained a 100% success rate when it comes to getting my clients’ energy at a heightened level. That’s 100%. No failures to date.
I know that as a loving parent and woman, you believe that your children and husband or partner deserve the BEST family life and this largely depends on you as a mother.
But the problem here…
Trying to support others when you lack the support yourself is HARD. Point blank and simple. Yes, you can just about cope. Yes, you can just about manage. Yes, you can just about fit everything into your week…
But even so, I’ve seen far too many MUMS get crushed in overwhelm even when they thought they had it altogether. Nobody wants to really just live a life surviving, just keeping their head above water. And the real tragedy of this is there is a system to beat this that most mums just don't know, because it doesn't get taught by our parents, in school or in ante-natal classes.
My Journey to Eliminate Tiredness and Boost Energy as a Mum of Four
I am a single mum who had to start life from scratch with four young children just five years ago so I had to find a way to harness my energy so powerfully so I could survive everyday. But then I managed to really crack it and I began to do more than just survive but flourish. And the number one question I now get asked is 'how do you have so much energy to do all you do with four kids?' For this reason I am truly passionate about helping mums because I don't like to see them suffer when they can soar and all they really need is the right help. God knows is it is well deserved!
That is when mothers thrive, their children thrive and their relationships thrive.
So a little help and lifting the lid below to get you started..
So What is Intentional Energy?
Intentional energy is recognising your energy requirements, clearly identifying them and living with them consciously on a daily basis. Although it sounds so simple, these are actually different for every mother. However most mums think there is a hard and fast rule that may eliminate mommy exhaustion and overwhelm, but the truth is there isn’t.
Being intentional means no longer waking up and hoping or wishing the day might be different, thinking energy may crop up today, dreaming of getting past the first half day with a mountain of energy left to fuel the second part. Yes it absolutely means saying no to these pipe dreams, because let’s face it, after children the energy you see your children display that you yourself may have once had is no longer returning in that same fashion. I work with many mothers who come to me knowing this to be the case but who find it so difficult to figure out how to generate new energy as a mother.
Why is Intentional Energy Important?
Because as outlined above if a mother is not intentional with her energy you can pretty much guarantee it isn’t about to knock on the door anytime soon!
And with that being the case, how do you then go about navigating, family, marriage, work, a home, school, extra curricular, health, finances, social with little to no energy to support you. You might be able to float on by but you can’t make the best decisions in any area of your life without energy because it is too difficult to be operating from your best self when you lack this gold resource that we as mothers truly need. It is a priority that is so urgent yet left to wither everyday.
The Link Between Our Brain and Our Mothers and Why it Makes a Mum's Energy Vital
Did you know this…
That the research, published in the journal NeuroImage, used a method called dual electroencephalograhy (EEG) to look at brain signals in both mums and babies while they were interacting with each other.
And they found...
‘Mothers' and babies' brains can work together as a 'mega-network' by synchronising brain waves when they interact. The level of connectivity of the brain waves varies according to the mum's emotional state: when mothers express more positive emotions their brain becomes much more strongly connected with their baby's brain. This may help the baby to learn and its brain to develop.’
Emotional communication between parents and their children has been proven to be absolutely vital during childrens early years.
"Our emotions literally change the way that our brains share information with others -- positive emotions help us to communicate in a much more efficient way," Dr Leong.
Full study and info to be found here - https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/12/191217105210.htm
So What is Parental Burnout?
Research published in Clinical Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science stated that...
When the daily stress of parenting becomes chronic it can turn into parental burnout, an intense exhaustion that leads parents to feel detached from their children and unsure of their parenting abilities, according to new research. This type of burnout can have serious consequences for both parent and child, increasing parental neglect, harm, and thoughts about escape.
This is why intentional energy is so important because it actually has a much more detrimental effect than just feeling zapped on the daily. There are long term effects no parent is considering as they are too busy trying to keep up, keep ahead and keep afloat.
Full study and article can be found here - https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/08/190828080538.htm
Why Mums are More Tired, Stressed & Less Happy Than Dads
It has been noted in studies that mums and dads primarily operate from differing roles as parents and that fathers often get to participate in the fun elements of parenthood whilst the mothers are lumbered with the monotonous and more mundane. This leads to resentment and frustration understandably.
How Can Mums Get More Energy?
There are so many tools and resources telling you how you can get more energy but information is generally not what a busy tired mother needs. Yes many of these quick fix tips will help in the short term but not so much over a longer period. Because they are an old way of doing things. Mums actually need transformation in their lives. How do I know this? Because information about getting more energy is readily available on the internet at the click of a button yet 99.9% of mums are exhausted beyond belief! So it is safe to say that information on what to do is not the solution.
Trying to Fight Energy Fatigue the Wrong Way
Firstly let’s take a look at the old way, it can look a little something like this:
Maybe if I sneak a few minutes or hours of self-care here and there I am going to feel just fine for the next month,
Online support groups and forums
Maybe if I have a look online for some online support groups and forums that will be great to have community
Maybe if I read some more books that will give me all the tools I need
Councilling or Therapy
Or maybe if I shell out some money on therapy to talk it out with someone for the next 2,3,4 years I will be a much happier mother
Access to Business and Career Support and/or Advice
Maybe add to the mix a bit of career support and advice
Or some face to face in person meet ups and interaction with other mothers in a similar situation
...And chuck in a few glasses of wine each night to help me cope at the end of the day that will do it.
Does this make a lot of sense to boost your energy as a mother?
Now the problem with all of these is that none of these alone are trans-formative. They are what I call part of the ‘fanciful hope’ category.
What Makes Getting Energy Back as a Mum EVEN HARDER
Because what life already looks like for you without trying to piece together a solution to your lack of energy and zest for life is a theme park most likely; a mother running from home to work, to school runs, pick up, school clubs, meals, homework, house duties, doctors, events, meetings and so much more and on top of that you want to add another 5 or 6 things from the fanciful hope category and hope they are a success.
The reality is there is a simple way to go about it but this is not it, you don’t need the nightmare of running all over the place on limited time, adding more and more to the mix. Meanwhile your kids want more from you and your husband wants more.
They seem like they may be a good idea on the outside but in reality none of these are going to give you the direct forward thinking tools and strategies you need to elevate your energy.
The Solution to Boost Energy for New Mums, Busy Mums or Tired Mums
The New Way is really very simple and that is what it is about and what every mother desires and craves; some simplicity added and complexity removed.
What You Don't Need to do in Order to Boost Your Energy as a Mum
You don’t need to find stress relievers or coping mechanisms, you don’t need to trawl online to find support forums, you don’t need to spend years in counselling or therapy, you don’t need to sit through career advice which isn’t helping you with you and your home or married life, you don’t need to try and find the time to hunt out other mothers that may feel like you and arrange meet ups on an already busy schedule.
ONE great system can replace all of those with a simple process just like this:
The Energy Success Wheel
This new way = utilises ‘The Energy Success’ wheel and is a very unique system.
We get you super focused clarity, eliminate the exhaustion, tackle all the hindering emotions, no longer permitting negative beliefs and mental patterns, and finally mastery in all your life arenas, in one clear, unobtrusive loop.
What an Effective Energy Boosting System Can do For You as a Mum
This powerful simplistic approach blazes right past any of the old strategies as they require you to do many things whilst only helping you with a tiny portion of your challenges.
Whereas a proven system like this builds a strong connection between all the facets of your life; creating massive positive change with minimal disruption and you get to enjoy a passionate and highly energetic experience each and every day.
The Tangible Benefits of Using a System that Beats Fatigue, Burn Out and Boosts Energy?
A major boost in your mood, physical ability, health and overall wellness
Your self-confidence at a peak level
A blueprint to reach your full potential because now you have the vitality and clarity
Ability to powerfully and energetically influence and role model to your children
Passion injected back into your marriage or relationship and completely revitalised
The ultimate blueprint to escape 'head in the sand Sundays' in dredded anticipation of a new week
Talk soon, you could do with the support as a mother and you really would love to experience the above benefits of being intentional with your energy, then book a call right here and let’s talk about how our signature Mums Ri-Wired can re-energise your life in every way possible and if it isn't a right fit I am going to give you a good 60-90 minutes of completely free help and diving deep so you can go away more equipped to make some major life differences to beating the constant exhaustion and need for more energy.
Ri Justin CHPC is a Certified High Performance Coach and the Founder of Mums Ri-Wired. She is known as the ‘secret weapon’ for mums and takes professional and business mums from overwhelmed and frazzled to balanced, focus and thriving with her signature coaching program.