Exhausted Mums Struggling to Stay Focused
Updated: Jul 19, 2021
Struggling to Stay Focused
I hear this a lot from clients and mums I speak to and most often than not it is in reference to staying focused and present with their children, above anything else.
But don’t get me wrong, how you do one thing is how you do everything so if you are struggling to stay focused with your children you can bet there are areas of professional life being affected.
If you had to really examine and be honest, you would almost certainly find you aren’t producing focused work in your career.
You probably aren’t as focused on your relationship as you could be.
You aren’t giving your future enough focus.
And, you almost certainly are not focused on yourself enough.
And I'll tell you why for the latter, because if you were as focused on yourself as you needed to be and yes that might mean being what you consider to be selfish, it would allow you to focus more wholeheartedly on everything else in the measure you truly desire.
What Keeps Most Mums Stuck
The inability to self-evaluate and really dig deep is what keeps most mums stuck and in struggling mode.
And it isn’t their fault.
I have said this before and I will repeat it, we do not get taught these things in school or by our parents in most cases and so we grow up, have families and have to figure it out.
The sad fact is most mums do not figure it out and their children go on to have children and then the cycle continues.
And this is why I really wanted to create this blog because I believe the shifting of beliefs and what we have been taught and not been taught is a critical thing to evaluate.
Especially in times like this when there is a crisis happening in society which is leading to a crisis inside the homes of many families, on top of pre existing struggles.
Old constructs just do not work.
Divorce rates have shot through the roof and not necessarily because people needed to divorce but because being at home all day long with a spouse has magnified problems that were already present but got brought into focus and two people made a decision to walk away from each other, instead of walking away from the problem.
This happens as a result of struggling to stay focused.
Now I am not saying that all couples need to stay together, not at all, but what I am leading to is that focus or a lack there of in the right places will cause a myriad of consequences in peoples lives that are much bigger than are often realised on a day to day basis.
So before we get more into it, I was just wondering if you resonate with any of the below:
Do you find yourself struggling with consistent focus, what about retaining your energy, to get ahead everyday?
What about being present and influential in life, at work and with your kids?
Do you need more advanced tools and strategies for becoming more confident, productive, influential and energetic?
If the answer was yes, have a little think about this… What is the number #1 thing every mum in the world desires?
I personally believe that the answer, quite simply is: more, most mums if you ask them would say ‘a bit more..’ most likely! But in actual fact on the inside they are screaming for so much more but they do not allow themselves to access it or give themselves permission to allow it.
But in reality mums are struggling to stay focused because...
They desire more life balance and a lot more time, they desire more success in their business or career, they desire more passion in their relationships, they desire more money, more energy, more productivity and a bit more meaning.
Let’s be honest everyone wants more of the good things that life has to offer, right?
Well, to get more, mum’s need to activate their full potential, which we are all capable of doing.
They need to hit a higher gear and become high performers at whatever they do, which usually mums do not resonate with. However in order to become more focused, productive, influential and fulfilled that is exactly what they need.
And it is not as esoteric as it sounds!
So you might be wondering why would I need to be a high performer as a mother and what has it got to do with focus?