Why You Need to be Selfish With Your Time
Updated: Mar 10
Have you ever wondered how some women just seem to get ten times more done than other women and still have more energy, leaving you wondering what on earth you are doing with your time???
Wished the day was longer? Or that time would stand still for just a second?
The truth is most women have.
The crazy part is that it is actually shockingly simple to combat this.
People often say to me how do you get so much done with the four children, why are you always so vibrant and the answer to that is because I do not feel that I do not get enough time. I also never feel that my life is unbalanced therefore I do feel joyful and energetic the majority of the time.
But this was not always the case from me and what I learnt is that being selfish with your time is crucial for life and work success.
My Relationship With Time
In my article ‘What I lost Journeying into High Performance’ and ‘Running Like Mad in 4” Heels’ I talk about my awful relationship with time and how it contributed to such a horrific day to day experience and ultimately forced me to make major changes.
Here’s a little except from one;
“I was definitely not efficient in the way I worked; productivity to me was rummaging through my inbox all day long feeling busy whilst juggling multiple projects, employees, budgets, venues and a decaying self. (That however I wasn't ready to admit at the time).
As a single mum of four, feeling stretched thinly to accommodate all my children amongst my personal life, business and my loved ones was something I felt all too often.
My journey into high performance taught me one of my biggest lessons; that sometimes a loss of an old life we thought was great can give way to the creation of something much more beautiful, purposeful and fulfilling that we actually didn't even imagine or realise we wanted. “
Why It Pays to Be Selfish With Your Time
When you have no boundaries around your time it leads to a life that is cluttered because it is often a reflection of your mind.
And when your mind is cluttered:
You can't make the best choices
You are fatigued and often won't know why
You can't offer your best to those around
You can't see the forest through trees in a myriad of situations
You can not get your organisational skills to a good standard
The Ultimate Success Secret to Time Management
In my experience there are a couple of elements you need to consider, two ways in which you can manage yourself and time and that is:
Now most peoples lives will have a mixture of both but to solidly master your days, weeks, months and thus years number two is the one that should dominate at least 80% of the time. This should not be compromised over an extended period and it is absolutely something that needs to be prioritised in your life to transform your relationship with time in your life.
A life heavily reliant on Number one; Reactivity, can sometimes seem like it works day to day on the outside because you are managing to get things done. But to actually boost your energy, advance your career, pursue purpose with wealth will require you to step it up in this area in a way your health and relationships do not get compromised.
How To Protect Your Time
Women who are utterly selfish with their time and refuse to let things not aligned with the life they want to live steal any of it, are masters at protecting their time. And this selfishness towards their time allows them to be selfless with those they love.
The way to do this is to choose to live in pro-active mode, it allows you to be very intentional. This provides the foundation so that you are able to double down on the changes you want to make and sustain success across all your life arenas.
This is exactly what all hard working women should be experiencing; getting to enjoy balance and fulfilment instead of just fleeting moments of happiness with a dominance of overwhelm.
Investing Your Time As a Leader for True All Round Life Success
Although you may be constantly out of time further time management techniques are actually not what you need at this point otherwise Google information would be working for you.
You need a system to help you identify what is not working in your life and thus what not to do as well provide you with a blueprint that collapses the time frame to your personal and professional goals.
Executive Coaches are like your birds eye perspective and see all your blind spots and open up your mind and life to new paradigms and ways of doing things you would have never have thought of alone. Because typically when you are in a situation you can’t see out of it.
Instead you can learn and model from someone who has walked the miles and has the shortcut ready and waiting for you.
Why would you not want someone to shave years off the learning curve, leverage your time and enjoy the life you truly want much sooner.
If you are ready book a call right here.
Ri Justin CHPC is a Certified High Performance Coach and the Founder of Mums Ri-Wired. She is known as the ‘secret weapon’ for mums and takes professional and business mums from overwhelmed and frazzled to balanced, focus and thriving with her signature coaching program.